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novice@it says:
unwanted emails
Hi guys,
I have a question, I received a forwarded email from my sister-in-law, about child abuse, there were 4 very disturbing photos, one included a deceased child. I am even bothered by writing about it, she didnt originate the email, however, she forwarded it to me. I understand the cause, but feel sending the photos were too much to see,(in my opinion). I emailed her back, some small talk first, then asked her to please not send me anymore pictures of a disburbing nature. Was I right or wrong, I can not handle that type of image without being extremely upset. Please advise. thanks Glenda
Oct 5, 2009
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novice@it says:
PS, I guess I also wanted to add, that I was afraid of hurting her feelings, and didnt want to sound mean.
Oct 5, 2009
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MaggieM says:
Hi Glenda....I see nothing wrong with telling your sister that something disturbs you, if it does. I know that I'm close enough to both my sisters to freely tell them, if something bothers me. Some people are disturbed visiting sick people, etc. So if she knows that it's not personal just the way you are, I'm sure she will understand. Hugggs....
Oct 5, 2009
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terilew says:
just tell her that stuff like that really bothers you and you appreciate that she shares email with you but you'd rather not get anymore like that.
I don't think I'd want to receive email like that either..so don't feel bad.
Terri
Oct 5, 2009
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kezcreates says:
I would have done the same thing I'm sure. I am all too aware of what goes on in the world, not to mention the fact that my kids are usually around when I am on the computer and I would not want them to see something like that either. I think you did the right thing. Maybe you worried about hurting her feelings, but you have your own feelings to think about too and that is okay!
Oct 5, 2009
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~ JJ ~ says:
I had a similar situation with my brother recently, sending me emails which I thought were inappropriate. As with Karrie, my kids are usually running around when I open my mails and these emails were sometimes not for young eyes.
When I mentioned this to my brother and asked him to stop sending them, he was outraged and has stopped sending me emails altogther.
But, although I obviously hurt his feelings, my kids' feelings are more important!
I think you were right to ask her to stop sending you mails you find disturbing and I am sure she will respect your feelings.
Oct 5, 2009
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novice@it says:
thanks for all who posted on this topic, Im just really sensitive when it comes to kids, and, also worry about others feelings, so I appreciate all your input, I think I did the right thing.
Oct 5, 2009
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novice@it says:
well, she emailed me back to apolgize, and then promptly, says, "oh I thought since your a mother, you would be outraged about child abuse". Then she politely moved on to reminding me that my husband owes her money. Sounds like she did get offended by my email, which is what I thought would happen, now a new question, do I respond, or let it go, this is not my sister, it is my husbands sister, she is across the country, we dont ever see each other, so I dont like the thought of hurt feelings, but she did imply that I might not be "outraged". oh, family, what can you do??
Oct 6, 2009
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terilew says:
yeah, it's a shame you can't pick your family...lol. I wonder how many of us would keep who we have. I have friends that I'm closer to than some of my family.
I'd just let it go, you know how sometimes you get an email and you just don't respond to every little thing in it...this is one of those little things.
Terri
Oct 6, 2009
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Granmafixit says:
Someone had said to me sometime ago " God gave us our relations , but I thank god I can choose my friends" ( I have thought of this ofton and it comes to mind now.)In my opinion we get emails but there is no law which states we have to think like the next person. We are all entiteled to what we think .It is called having a mind of our own, being independant.If we get it wrong there is no law saying we can't have a change of mind but it is purely an individual fact that we are all in differant frames of mind .
I know it gets to you , I'm getting son in law problems right now and not sure how to handle them - maybe I will write in here ! but in my book you did the right thing , I would have done the same .
Oct 14, 2010
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